Have you ever felt that paralyzing fear and self-doubt that occurs when you’re in the middle of an idea or task? You know, the ones that sneak into your mind and steal all of your self-confidence and esteem. The type of doubt that leaves you questioning if you’re good enough or smart enough. The type of doubt that leaves you questioning “What is wrong with me?” and leaves you feeling like you’re alone. Can you relate to this? If you can’t then, guess what, you’re perfect and this really isn’t the post for you. However, if you can relate, keep reading and know you are enough. Know that there is a purpose for us. And most importantly, know that we are never alone.
From time to time, the fear and self-doubt monster sneaks its ugly little voice inside my head. Take last week for instance, it was the start of my first module in B-School. I can’t accurately describe how excited I was to view the first video on Monday. Afterwards I started on the accompanying worksheet (better known as a fun sheet in B-School) and about half way through I got this overwhelming feeling of doubt. What if my business failed, AGAIN! In 2011, I had a business venture that was a flop. What if this would be failure 2.0? So there I sat at my desk deep in my thoughts. I’m not one of those people who says that failure isn’t an option. Clearly it is. However, for me the biggest failure would be to give up or never try. So in that moment, I made myself the promise to put forth all the effort and strength I could manage. Because in my heart, I know I will learn something valuable and become a wiser business owner.
So the next time you find yourself drowning in fear and self-doubt, take a deep breath and with all the strength that resides in you, affirm your intelligence, your beauty, your worth, and all the fabulous things that you have to offer this world.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Sara Strauss says
I get that self-doubt when I write my novel or just think about writing it. What if it sucks? What if no one wants to publish it? What if it’s published, but then no one wants to read it? What if I’m a horrible writer? We’re smart women and we know that these doubts are stupid and yet they just creep back in. I’ll definitely be taking more deep breaths like you recommend!
Robin Hardeman says
Thanks for sharing such a personal post! We all have these doubts but we know with God all things are possible. Best wishes with B-school!
john hutchens says
A very nice post . We all have doubts .Great reminder to just believe and relax
Daisy Rebecca Reyes says
thank you for this nice post
remind me to just believe and not to worry
I think a lot of people get paralyzed by self doubt. I try a lot of things and sometimes I can’t do them but at least I did try. Thank you for sharing!