No I’m not taking about going #2. I’m talking about how your unrealistic demands are ruining your life.
How many times have you uttered, I should have more money saved, or I should be married by now.
Or maybe you’re the musty type and your existence is built around things that you must do.
I must do well at school, I gotta make partner by 35, or I must post on my social media accounts every day.
I want, therefore, I must have
There is nothing wrong with wanting to better yourself or have nice things. The problem starts when you start seeing your wants as things that you must have. Life is hard enough already, adding unrealistic demands and absolute thinking will only add to the pressure. So ask yourself this, is it really necessary? Hells no.
Absolute thinking only makes life hard. It causes us to be inflexible and unrealistic. Which, if left unchecked, could lead to worrying, depression, avoidance, resentment, or a bunch of other unwanted stuff.
So, how do I stop?
So how do you get rid of these types of thoughts? You don’t. Bet you wasn’t expecting me to say that uh. But it’s the truth, these types of thought are rooted in years and years of socializing.
But there’s a way to dispute these thoughts. And to help you dispute yours, I’ve included a worksheet with this post. You can download it here. This worksheet contains questions to help you dispute your absolute thoughts.
Changing the way we think isn’t an easy process. If it was, there wouldn’t be a need for life coaches or counselors, and I would be out of a job and the owner of an useless master’s degree. I’m not saying this to scare you but we all know change can be hard.
My Challenge To You
Think of the should and musts you demand on yourself and share one in the comment section below. I know this is a personal question to ask but I believe we’re here to inspire one another.